5/16/2023 0 Comments Flirty texts![]() Have you ever found yourself struggling to spark things up with a girl? It can be frustrating, particularly when you're unsure about what exactly to say in that tantalizing message. If you break up then please don't blame yourself for looking at her messages – you would probably have found out at some stage – and she is the one who appears to have chosen to go outside of the relationship so that is where any blame should lie.Writing a seductive text can be tricky. If you do stay together, I suggest that when you have had things explained to you sufficiently and have devoted enough time to the whole subject, you should make a resolve not to raise the issue any more as talking about it endlessly achieves absolutely nothing. Based on her reply you will then have to decide where the relationship goes. No matter how you phrase it, you are going to have to admit that you read her messages, and she will be angry, but you need to have some answers from her. However, I feel that the time has come for you to talk this whole thing through with her when you get back home. She knows that you have (or perhaps had) marriage in your plans and the fact that she wasn't ready to commit may indicate that she doesn't feel as strongly for you as you do for her. She may indeed feel very safe having an exciting textual tryst going on, while at the same time living with you. She may be enjoying the attention of somebody who obviously admires her and is attracted to her, without any intention of taking things any further. Some people are naturally very flirtatious, and perhaps there is not as much going on as you think there is. This would, of course, lead to all sorts of difficulties in the relationship between the two of you, as she would very quickly realise that there was some reason why you have begun to question her movements. The problem with saying nothing is that you will forever feel like checking her mobile phone and when she goes anywhere on her own you will suspect that she is meeting him, and you will find yourself becoming something of an inquisitor. You have to make a decision whether to tell her you read the texts or just keep this all to yourself and pretend it didn't happen. By now, you will be away from home so you have a little time in which to reflect on what has happened, and this is a good thing. At some moments I just want to walk out – but I still have great feelings for her and am afraid that if I mention this to her she is the one who will walk out.ĪThat was a pretty awful experience for you because it was so unexpected and you had no warning that anything like this was happening. I have to go away on business tomorrow for a few weeks which is a relief because I am embarrassed about having read her texts, but in turmoil about how she could have been such a traitor to our relationship. Since then (three days ago) I have managed to keep myself busy at work and we have hardly spoken. I brought her the phone, but said I was in a rush and couldn't wait to talk. She said that she liked his hair and that he had "naughty" eyes and she wondered what he would look like when he stripped down to his rugby gear. They had had lunch somewhere, but I'm not sure if it had been arranged previously or if they just happened to be in the same restaurant at the same time. There was nothing explicitly sexual in the texts, but he was pushing for her to go to dinner in his flat and she never actually said "no". I couldn't stop myself and started searching for more texts and there were quite a few and she had obviously deleted a lot more. It was like someone had punched me in the stomach. ![]() It turned out to be a flirty message from some guy whose name I had never heard her mention. When I found it, I saw that she had a message and I read it, just out of idle curiosity. My problem is that earlier this week she left her mobile at home and called me from work to bring it in to her on my way to work. We have a great social life with lots of friends, we both have good jobs so the money is OK and we eat out a lot. We have talked about marriage but she doesn't want to be rushed into it, so I haven't mentioned it for a while. ![]() I'm 30 and have been living with my girlfriend for the past two years and I'm crazy about her. ![]() QI don't know who to talk to and who to turn to, and have been reading your columns for the past year and you make a lot of sense, so I hope you can help me too. ![]()
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